Monday, August 31, 2009

Monthly Manifesto Report Card (August 2009)

1. I will improve my quality of life. -- F
Let’s be honest, for me to be the person I want to be – to do the things I want to do – I need to make some major lifestyle changes. Today, I commit to doing so. I promise to put as much energy and will into eating healthier and getting into shape as I put into law school. I will no longer allow my aches and pains to control who I am and what I do. I will finally get my bad knee looked at.
OK, there’s no good way to put this. I have sucked at No. 1. Haven’t been eating better, haven’t been exercising. Nothing. I’ll do better, I promise.

2. I will find someone who loves me. -- D+
For too long I have avoided the mere possibility of a real relationship. The combination of past heartache and fear of future disappointment has left me on the sidelines, pining for those who are already spoken for or have no interest in me. This was the only safe way to avoid getting hurt. No more. I promise to search for the woman who will appreciate all that I have to offer. I will no longer live behind walls. I have much love to give, and I won’t waste it on those who have no interest in it.
The search is on and I’ve actually made an effort to meet someone. I got shot down, but I made the effort. Still a bit stuck on one who is already spoken for, but I’m trying.

3. I will expand my horizons. -- A-
Law school made it easier to live my life in a bubble, but to be perfectly honest I’ve lived that way since returning from St. Louis. I’ve lived in Northern Kentucky pretty much all of my life, but I’ve only experienced a small sliver of all this beautiful place has to offer. That will change. It must change. I refuse to continue living my own self-imposed version of Groundhog Day. I’m rewriting the script. Beginning with my little Facebook Pawn experiment, I will branch out. I promise I will do new things, go new places, meet new people. Before 08.01.10, I will go skydiving. I will go to New York and Chicago – just for fun. There is a whole world out there, and I’ll be damned if I’m going to ignore it another day.
I’ve been to so many new places and tried so many new things already. PAWN is exactly what I hoped it’d be (well, except for falling off the curb and locking myself out of my car in the ghetto) – a kick in the butt that makes me get out and experience the region (so far, every single adventure has been in Cincinnati! There has to be some cool things in the ‘Tucky too, right???!!!???) And I may be going to Vegas this fall.

4. I will have fun. -- B+
I honestly don’t remember the last time I truly had fun. When I was a boy, everything was fun. Somewhere along the way I forgot how to enjoy life. I will remember. I will reconnect with old friends and relearn how to live in the moment. Life is too short to spend all of your time climbing the mountains. Yes, there will be more mountains. And yes, I will climb them or die trying. But that doesn’t mean I can’t take time to enjoy the journey. I promise I will never again let life fly past me while I am busy with other things. The adventure is every bit as important as the success, and it is much more fun.
I’ve spent some time with old friends and started to reconnect a bit. This month, I went to a couple of concerts (Bad Veins at Southgate House was awesome!) and ventured out to as many new places as I could find. It was a fun month!

5. I will have a better appreciation for my family. -- B
Family is everything. It really is – everything. And I don’t want to be too cliche about it, but your family is the easiest thing in the world to take for granted. They’ll always be there for you. They’ll always love you. Even when you make bad decisions and are clearly in the wrong, they will stand beside you. So when life gets hectic, family is often the first thing that is sacrificed. For far too long I’ve neglected my family. I promise I will spend more time with them; I will be there for them whenever they need me. I will appreciate those things we share in common and celebrate our differences.
Even when you’re not in school, finding enough time for family is hard! I did go to a cool family reunion this month with my dad and spent as much time as I could find with my brothers. Chloe and I played our butts off last weekend, and I can’t wait for more of that.

6. I will not rest on my laurels. -- C
I used to resent being asked, “What’s next?” when people learned that I was finishing up law school. I wanted to ask them, “What’s next for you?” It angered me that there were different expectations of me just because I’d accomplished something few others do. Now, I take it as a compliment. I welcome great expectations and demand new challenges. While I don’t quite know what my next mountain will be just yet, I promise this – when I find myself standing at its base, I’ll be ready to climb. There are things in my life that I need to change, but I would not be where I am today without that attitude. I will appreciate my accomplishments more; I will not let future challenges be such a burden on those who I love; but I will never stop climbing. This I promise.
A bit too early to say on this one. I just dropped my estate planning class, so this will be the first semester in quite a while that I won't be in school. I'm sure I'll find a new challenge this fall though.

7. I will help people. -- A-
I am blessed. As much as I need to make changes in my life, I know that I have it better than so many. I promise to use the skills and expertise that I have acquired to help those who aren’t as lucky as I have been. I will give my time, talent and treasure to help others. And I will get involved with Big Brothers/Big Sisters of Greater Cincinnati.
I signed up for Big Brothers and will meet my "little" in a couple weeks. Can’t wait – it’s going to be fun. Haven’t done much else yet, but I will find ways to do more once things slow down this fall.

Saturday, August 1, 2009

08.01.09 Manifesto

1. I will improve my quality of life.
Let’s be honest, for me to be the person I want to be – to do the things I want to do – I need to make some major lifestyle changes. Today, I commit to doing so. I promise to put as much energy and will into eating healthier and getting into shape as I put into law school. I will no longer allow my aches and pains to control who I am and what I do. I will finally get my bad knee looked at.

2. I will find someone who loves me.
For too long I have avoided the mere possibility of a real relationship. The combination of past heartache and fear of future disappointment has left me on the sidelines, pining for those who are already spoken for or have no interest in me. This was the only safe way to avoid getting hurt. No more. I promise to search for the woman who will appreciate all that I have to offer. I will no longer live behind walls. I have much love to give, and I won’t waste it on those who have no interest in it.

3. I will expand my horizons.
Law school made it easier to live my life in a bubble, but to be perfectly honest I’ve lived that way since returning from St. Louis. I’ve lived in Northern Kentucky pretty much all of my life, but I’ve only experienced a small sliver of all this beautiful place has to offer. That will change. It must change. I refuse to continue living my own self-imposed version of Groundhog Day. I’m rewriting the script. Beginning with my little Facebook Pawn experiment, I will branch out. I promise I will do new things, go new places, meet new people. Before 08.01.10, I will go skydiving. I will go to New York and Chicago – just for fun. There is a whole world out there, and I’ll be damned if I’m going to ignore it another day.

4. I will have fun.
I honestly don’t remember the last time I truly had fun. When I was a boy, everything was fun. Somewhere along the way I forgot how to enjoy life. I will remember. I will reconnect with old friends and relearn how to live in the moment. Life is too short to spend all of your time climbing the mountains. Yes, there will be more mountains. And yes, I will climb them or die trying. But that doesn’t mean I can’t take time to enjoy the journey. I promise I will never again let life fly past me while I am busy with other things. The adventure is every bit as important as the success, and it is much more fun.

5. I will have a better appreciation for my family.
Family is everything. It really is – everything. And I don’t want to be too cliche about it, but your family is the easiest thing in the world to take for granted. They’ll always be there for you. They’ll always love you. Even when you make bad decisions and are clearly in the wrong, they will stand beside you. So when life gets hectic, family is often the first thing that is sacrificed. For far too long I’ve neglected my family. I promise I will spend more time with them; I will be there for them whenever they need me. I will appreciate those things we share in common and celebrate our differences.

6. I will not rest on my laurels.
I used to resent being asked, “What’s next?” when people learned that I was finishing up law school. I wanted to ask them, “What’s next for you?” It angered me that there were different expectations of me just because I’d accomplished something few others do. Now, I take it as a compliment. I welcome great expectations and demand new challenges. While I don’t quite know what my next mountain will be just yet, I promise this – when I find myself standing at its base, I’ll be ready to climb. There are things in my life that I need to change, but I would not be where I am today without that attitude. I will appreciate my accomplishments more; I will not let future challenges be such a burden on those who I love; but I will never stop climbing. This I promise.

7. I will help people.
I am blessed. As much as I need to make changes in my life, I know that I have it better than so many. I promise to use the skills and expertise that I have acquired to help those who aren’t as lucky as I have been. I will give my time, talent and treasure to help others. And I will get involved with Big Brothers/Big Sisters of Greater Cincinnati.